COMPLAINT BOX- 'D WIFE'

Often wives are titled as 'Complaint Box'. There are plenty jokes on hub-wife; in which most of the time the hilarious targets are "Wife". Because as they say after marriage Hus-Band ka toh BAND bajj jaata hai.. It's like a ritual, 'Bhai yaar tu toh gaya..'; 'Abhi bhi time hai..soch le be' or thanks to Bollywood too there are few supportive songs like 'Ek kuwara fir gaya maara', etc & etc..Such jokes are good for few laughs, but nowadays with the change in time they carry a monotonous feel with them.

In our typical society the ideal role of a wife carry lot of duties which CANNOT be treated "casual" by her; because if one day this homo-maker gets lazy to wake up, late or is not in a mood to cook, that won't please her dear family & in reverse that'll lead a stressful moment to the women department thus, unknowingly inviting the hormonal fluctuations in her body. If you consider 'Aaj ki Naari as a Millennium Woman- Super Woman' then what is 'Aaj ka Nar' to the society- The same old 'Lazy Lad- Bechara.' So here is ONE of the reason why your better half, achanak se become a "Complaint Box" as she only needs & expect, little helping hand from you in household chores with love. After all- 'Many hands make the 'tasks' light'.  

Although, there are few hubbies who are out of count, they understand & be generous to provide an add on helping hand, without 'irritation', when asked. I am blessed with one.  

I don't nag him for anything. I also ensure to manage things on my own, to my best without bugging him. So he enjoys his "pressure filled" work life & during weekends he get to enjoy his 'Own time' by either studying for the ongoing office assignment or watching any 'GOT' episodes or any other series.

I don't know about others but at least at our home there are only 2 BOXES- An Idiot Box (TV) & The Lunch Box (taste of care)..

PS.: Above post has nothing to do with anyone's emotion or motion ;) if unintentionally one is hurt then may be the truth is outspoken.. ;) :P  

Wings of Change- HID

If you don't like something, change it. 

If you can't change it, then change your attitude. 

Don't complain. - Maya Angelou

Firstly, I love my country. "Mera bharat mahan" (Although 'sau mein se ninyanvein beiman') & all the high jinks that goes along with it. Undoubtedly, we have a great culture, history and diversity. We are generous, hospitable colorful folks. But can we take a moment and address the facts which are not-so-great? 

Spending just, few years in USA made me realize how gradually we Indians, in our country have become irascible, lacking in the matters concerning manners and common-courtesy to each other. Few of us are so inconsiderate, that I assume people lack the common sense or rather sometimes common courtesy to each other. How else would you explain well-educated, well-traveled, city-bred people throwing/ spitting trash/chocolate wrapper etc. out of their cars (moving/unmoving)? Or bumping each other in the lines to grab any empty cart in an airport/ grocery center? Or honking at cars in front when they can clearly see there is a traffic-jam? I am not an activist or any "-ist" for any matter, but there are just somethings that grab my attentions. However, beside Nautanki- (Drama Queen), I AM, Ms. Practical.

 

I worry about my country. While the world appreciates our rich arts & culture, diversity, and traditions.. us Indians, see those same things and call them our differences on the basis of race, caste and color. 

No city or country or an individual is without its faults. Wasn't that the whole point of bringing all the states together and making India, "AN INDEPENDENT COUNTRY"so that we can co-exist and retrieve the benefits of a nation?

Previously, I used to believe that may be the reason for India's sleepy progress are the social causes- Growing population, poverty and illiteracy, etc. However, as the time proceeds I am learning by an observation, that it's the educated, selfish, and headlong people that are the actual cause. The reality is that when we see 'others' progress and prosperity we get jealous and instead of trying to improvise ourselves better at our respective jobs, we try and find ways to brings 'the others' down rather being.

Presently, when I see people around me, I observe one thing in common - Discontentment! None of us are satisfied with what we have. We want what others have. We crave for MORE.
 

Now many of you might be thinking what I am going to do rather than poking around & jotting on it. The only cause, that I would like to work for, would be something that enlighten people to change their prespective. I would really like to discover ways of making individuals learn how to be at peace with themselves & accepting things around them, logically, rather than nagging about petty items & complaining, often about it. Change can happen within us.

Half the problem would get solved, automatically, if people will mind their own business. Let the cricketers play cricket, movie-stars make movies and politicians do.. oops.. I forget, what exactly is it that they do?

Chit chat between ME & me.. ;)

At times, I enjoy observing others act; try to analyze their behavioral patterns. Grab silly things from them, try to apply too. In my head, I match any song suiting to the situation & this way I pull myself out from any stress/ anger.

Lately, I just love walking between the nature & turning the time machine back to the old times>>

"Childhood Fantasies",
"Teenage Crushes",
"Blush 4 First Love" :p

Wondering how I went through the 'OSLA' time ;) # (OSLA- One sided lover association)

The thing is observing yourself on how we take steps ahead & simply move on, from time to time. Noticing, on how you struggled the hard times of childhood/teenage life, which might seems silly, today. But the catch is we must always maintain that connection to the past, and yet ceaselessly pull away from it.

Here, I am not asking to stick to the rotten memories & feel regret/gloom about it and whispering to yourself "Kash..aisa hota toh.."
My point is taking right actions today, could be the best apologies for bad actions in the past.
The more anger/ hatred feelings you carry in your heart, for not fulfilling the said promises or expectations, the less capable you are of loving in the present.

"Never regret something that once made you smile….at the time its what you wanted.."
Life is too big so is ur heart.. Simply spread smiles, love around. Forgive, forget & forgo.. :)

Sources of Inspiración..

Creativity and Inspiration tend to present themselves whenever they see fit. I have short listed few sure shot ways to spark the hidden enigma within everyone.. :)

Following ideas might serve few of us in a best manner & for some they may be just words. So my request to all the readers is to follow each point in calm & mind free manner.

Generally, I follow a "MANTRA" to sort out my answers is to Stop thinking. As when I find myself stuck on anything for a long time, I cease my wings from struggling to relaxing mode. The best way to go about is to stop looking for the answer and let the answer finds you.. ;)

>> X factor

The more I workout the more 'Nirvana' I feel. Facts remain constant as they say:
Being active is extremely important & walking can add minutes to your life..
Well I keep Trying to lose weight, but it keeps finding me :p

Jokes apart what my point here is exercise is an important factor to remain fit but whats more imperative is to know your physical state. Do your drill when ever you can and you’ll be more happier & lively. When accosted with a loaded assignments stumping your head, drill harder to release your endorphin.

>> Driving

Living with a conscience is like driving a car with the brakes on; So when you are stressed, go for care free driving; although get alert after rear-viewing the chasing cops ;) The line is to drive out all the negative energy in the air.. :)


>> Music

A genre that makes you fall into. Simply, clear all your consciousness of stresses & fears. Then play your chords. Let the music guide your brain & lets you to bring out a refreshing idea. Trust me its an invaluable tool while relaxing yourself & peeking your soul.. :)


>> Caffeine

This is an absolute last resort for me. I’m of the school of thought that my body is my temple and I keep it free of toxins as often as possible. But, a deadline is a deadline and sometimes I just can’t seem to get my brain out of second gear. This is when I have to head to my local mom & pop coffee shop (I like it better than the chain stores) where I can kick back and get myself a vat of caffeine to soak my brain in. Again, this is a last resort. The other natural methods I offered through brain power and thought control will keep you happier, healthier and more creative in the long run. You don’t want your creativity to become dependant on foreign substances.



>> People Watching

This is my best technique, especially when pouring my mind with some fresh thoughts. Go to any crowded place, empty your mind and subtly observe strangers. This can literally be ANYWHERE that there is a constant flow of new people to observe and absorb. This may seem awkward at first, but 99.9% of the time, nobody will notice what you’re up to and before long, you will probably find yourself quite entertained. Observe people and how they interact with each other, the world around them, and even with themselves. There is no better way that I know of to step outside yourself and get a fresh outlook from others viewpoint.



>> Being Kiddy

Sometimes its lovely to act fool & being notorious. As your dumbness can give chance to others to laugh/smile for a while. So I let my folks make fun of me, cause somewhere on my mind I have feeling of peace of making them happy for the moment. Anyway, the bottom line is to "Be happy & spread happiness.." So keep Spreading Smiles :)



>> Clear Mind to refocus
The greatest obstacle in creating something completely original is the frustration that tends to flare up when you can’t get your imagination to give you its goodies. When you try to force your imagination to generate something on the spot, it sometimes works. When you’re frustrated and you try to force your imagination, it never works. If my methods don’t work for you, I recommend you do what ever it is that works for you in order to take a step back, separate yourself from the problem, do something fun for a while and come back to it with a fresh set of eyes and a positive frame of mind.

Mind over Matter..

When bad things happens to good hearts, they become better instead of bitter. A lot depends on how we take sudden changes in our life. Blaming to thee or thanking him for not making it worse. One should seek solutions for the troubles, rather than inviting melancholic moods. Its not in the prayers, yet its about the prayers. Giving few minutes of thanking God, might do wonders. It just the showers of blessing we need.

An impure mind craves for an impure things. Only a pure mind can do wisdom. Its the condition of one's mind that determines the quality of life. Primarily, everyone is attracted to a good body, rather than a good mind. This ignorance is adversely affecting the life's quality.

Our mind has the capacity to imagine. Which can be good/bad. Our imagination projects reality. An individual expects his/her partner to like this or that. This is a projected reality. But the fact is that the object reality is different. The husband is disappointed with his wife or vice-versa, not for what she is, but for what she should be. External reality does not fit into his subjective reality. Many suffer from this. So, all this happens in a world that is within us, our mind.

So it depends on us whether we choose chaos or cosmos. When the inner world of our mind is orderly, then we will see the external order as being more orderly.

"God gives us problems to humble us; not to tumble us.."

Inspired by: Every Man's Speaking Tree..

Fable..

"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change."

It was the coldest winter ever. Many animals died because of the cold. The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together. They were covered and protected, but the quills of each wounded the closest companion.

After a while, they decided to distance themselves, and they began to die, alone and frozen. So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth. Wisely, they decided to go back to being together.

They learned to live with the little wounds that were caused by their close relationships because the most important part was the heat that came from the others. They were able to survive.

"The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people, but the one that forms when individuals learn to live with the imperfections and admire the good qualities of others."

Trials & Errors

A German Philosopher once said:
“Its no use living arguing about everything; it is part of human nature to make a mistake now and again.”
Yet, there are people who absolutely insist that they are right even down to the smallest details. We ourselves are often included in this category:
we don’t allow ourselves to make mistakes. All that we achieve with such an attitude is the fear of moving forward – because certain steps call for new decisions whose results are unknown to us.

The fear of making a mistake is the door that locks us up in the commonness: However, if we manage to overcome this fear, we are taking an important step towards our freedom.

Power of acceptance:

In life, there comes a point where you either accept whatever you’re doing and just exist, or stop talking about what you used to be and do something
completely different.
In a Life's journey,our errors are the portals of discovery..

Re-frame..

In any relation when you feel you are a mistake to it. You keep wondering on the things that went unnoticed & unintentionally ignored, consequently hurting someone. But its too late when you realize it, really & there you are left with the feeling of regret & wishing to walk behind to reprint your steps. You crave for a "Magic wand" to bring a change.

While, reprinting those steps or trying to bring new change around you, at times you feel ignored. But remember in life we always get back what we gave.

So when reality strikes I realize there is no 'undo' or 'redo' options. So keep on trying baby.... until you get green signal of succeeding.. ;)

Everyone have their respective frame ('impressions') for one another. We are so busy in life that we ignore the fact that there could be a shift in perception about your frame on others mind. So re-frame your frame before its too late.... Njoy.. God Blesses!! :)

A new day has come..

Everyday when I wake up I feel good about a new day. As with a new day comes new strength and new thoughts. Each day seems as if something is going to take place in or out. Everyday we want to do something different & don't want to look back. But every now & then we are captured by something or other.

I just realized how time flew & leaving me behind to think of what I did to pacify myself. A feeling of being captured with certain things that in practical sense are stupidity; but to me they are important for my persona. So I want to organize my to do list before stepping further (precisely touching 30 ;))

So with the beginning of a new day. I say it to myself, "You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it for good. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever; in its place is something that you have left behind.. so let it be something good."

To simplify it lets not get wasted & making everyday productive one to live.. :)

Let go..

I was emotionally attached to numerous things, that I used to possess. Now here by "THINGS" I mean my childhood memories (that a girl has to leave at her "Place" once she steps out to her "Home")

I was attached with those silly teddies I owned, the scrapbooks I got fill since teenage, the collection of friendship bands & other stuffs placed on my table & everywhere in my room.

As some recent events made me realize of how I should not be too attached to anything and memories lie in our hearts and not in worldly possessions. So I started letting go the clutch.

The feeling of letting go is just like a footloose. I just learn to move on which in turn is more liberating. Its all about being positive & remaining happy.

Ultimately, smiling no matter what. As everything happens for some reason. (It seems I am discussing as if what happen to me.. Well, I just got married. So its quite natural that I have to leave those "Things" behind.. Only a thing that bothers me is that now my kid sis gonna take the charge huh!!) x-(

Anyway, coming back, the most important lesson that I learnt in past few months is-
"Lesser the things you have to hold on your back; the farther you will be able to proceed."

"Some people think its holding on that makes one strong- sometimes its letting go.." Think about it.. :)

Love 1; Love all.. :)

After waiting long, for my Love; I've committed to my parents, now. I decided not to search for my cookies & with the passing days I kept defining & redefining 'Love..'

All the way I've been thinking its an emotion; a deep feeling. But, now I discovered a new & different meaning of it; quite logical too. LOVE- a verb, An action, that automatically makes us fall for emotions & rise to feel its depth.

Love is not just a feeling of caring & sharing, but its an addiction towards that someone special, your soul-mate. When one can be what he/she is actually in front of that person; it creates a passionate vibe called 'Love.'

The joy of being together in happiness & feeling of being there in gloom period too is 'Love.' A beautiful & pure bond that has no space of mistrust/misunderstandings is 'Love.'

Love is everything that can heal even a feeling of hatred. I strongly believe -----
"Love yourself & rest all will fall in Love with you.." :)

Love 1 love all.. :)
God bless all!!

Impressions..

Imagining a Funeral; made my nerves go up & down for few seconds. I felt strange emotions I was going through, at the time of feeling mourn. I felt strange happiness & relief after seeing many known faces, I was passing by at that Funeral. Until I saw whose Funeral it was actually?

Though, there is much to offer in this beautiful world before departing. But I was glad to see the crowd attending my rites, standing there to pay a homage & praying for my PEARL (Soul) to rest in peace.

Wait a minute, still something is missing here, I could see clearly the faces of my Family- both immediate & extended ones; all my nearest & dearest folks are here too, dressed in peaceful light colors.

But where r u? Yes, the Love of my life. Its still missing.. :(

May be its there awaiting to accompany me & to relive in that different world together.. ;)
Everyone says we come empty hand & goes empty handed. But I can see my soul leaving smiles on everyones faces, whenever my name pass through their sight. & my heart carrying their griefs, emotions & their special memories.

Above all am carrying u, my Love in my heart; to feel your presence wherever I settle. :)

Simply Smile.. :)

We often mistaken with our lives, seeking happiness & following witty people; Let us take out few moments for ourself. Devote some quality time on what we like. Focus on WHO WE ARE? Rather than criticizing for what we din't get; Lets focus on what's there for us.

Life is full of surprises.. Listen & act what your heart says. All depends on us how you Take it; Feel it; Use it; Don't find reason to smile. Smile no matter what!!

Smile on your mistakes; Smile on yourself & you will end up in solving your every damn problem.
Give couple of minutes, daily to your face to let it create its curve.. Simply smile & spread smiles.. :))
Be a freak; do crazy stuffs ;) :D

Passion..

Once a stranger, around a lake, threw a pebble into the water. Small circles appeared where the pebble fell, which grew until they touched a duck that happened to be passing & which had nothing to do with the pebble. Instead of being afraid of that unexpected wave, he decided to play with it. There is a name for that PEBBLE: PASSION..

Beauty of Earth-Shaking, meeting between two people, but it isn't just that.
Its there in the excitement of the unexpected, in the desire to do something with real fervour, in the certainty that one is going to realize a dream. Passion sends us signals that guide us through our lives, & its up to me to interpret those signs. I would like to believe that I'm in LOVE..

The great AIM------- of every human being is to understand the meaning of Total Love.

LOVE------ is not to be found in someone else, but in ourselves;
We simply awaken it. But in order to do that, we need the other person. The universe only makes sense when we have someone to share our feelings with.

God bless us!! :)

Body*Soul..

"I'm not a body with a soul, I'm a soul that has a visible part called
'The Body' On the contrary ..
One might expect,
I've been more conscious of the presence of this SOUL than usual. It din't say anything to me,
din't criticize me or feel sorry for me :-- it merely watched me.. "

Now, I realized why this was happening:
It's been such a long time since I thought about Love or anything related.
It's seems to be running away from me, as if it wasn't important any more & din't feel welcome.
But if I don't think about LOVE, i'll be nothing.

"Presence of love.. makes one feel lively.."

Love..

A writer 1ce said that it is not time that changes man, nor knowledge; D only thing that can change sum1s mind is 'Love'. D person who wrote that clearly knew only 1 side of the 'Coin'..

'LOVE' is undoubtedly 1 of d things capable of changing a person's whole life, 4m 1 moment to d next. But, there is d other side of the coin. the second thing that could make a human being take a totally different course from the one he or she had planned; & that was called 'Despair'
Life is teaching me------>>
Very fast that only the "Strong Survive". To be strong, one must be the best, there's no alternative. Appearances are skin deep. Look deeper in you.....
God bless all :)

Zindagani..

"LIFE >>
Moves very fast, rushes us 4m heaven to hell in a matter of seconds..
I can choose either
2 be a victim of the world
or an adventurer
in search of treasure
It's all a question??
How I view my Life..
(Jindadilli Zindagani)"

Move On..

I've already been here an eternity..
I spend all day listening to Music on radio, looking around my room (Pune.. Enjoying the beautiful scenic view from top of the flat's terrace.

4m now on, whenever i feel low, I'll remember the Funfair. If I'd fallen asleep & suddenly woken up a roller coaster, what would i feel?
Well, I would feel trapped & sick, terrified of every bend, wanting to get off.

However, if I believe that the track is my destiny & that God is in charge of the machine, then the nightmare becomes something thrilling.

It becomes exactly what it is, a roller coaster, a safe, reliable toy, which'll eventually stop, but, while journey lasts, I must look @ the surrounding landscape & whoop with 'Excitement'..

Serendipity>>Destiny>>Fate..

@ d moment, I am far too lonely to think about love,
but I have to believe that it will happen,
that I will find a job & that I am here coz!
I chose this fate..

"D Roller Coaster is my life;
Life is fast, dizzing game;
Life is a parachute jump;
Its taking chances;
Falling over & getting up again;
Its a mountaineering;
Its wanting to get to the very top
of yourself & to feel angry
& dissatisfied when
you don't manage it
& laugh at it.."